Remove Negativity From Your Life With These Simple Steps

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Remove Negativity From Your Life With These Simple Steps

We all need more positivity in our lives, and that doesn't happen just by hoping it will happen.
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Like anyone else, I’ve experienced negativity in my life. Yes, there’s been a bunch of positivity as well, and I’m not disregarding that, but the negativity seemed to be at an all time high a few years ago and it was coming from all angles.

While I don’t think you can remove all negativity from your life, I’ve been very proactive in removing as much of it as I can and want to help you do the same.


Removing negativity from your life takes effort and tough decisions

There’s no secret to how much time we all spend on social media sites. Scrolling through people’s lives and updates is bound to bring negativity into your life. Here are steps to take to remove negativity from your social media feeds:

How to remove negativity from Twitter

Step #1: Kick negative people from your Twitter feed

It can feel weird to unfollow a bunch of friends and connections. Twitter Lists are a great way to group people into categories and you can create your own new List to check daily, instead of the main Twitter feed. Just remember, people can see what Lists you add them to (unless you make the List private).

Step #2: Use Twitter’s Mute button to hide Negative Nancys

You’ve seen that little Mute button, right?

Now you won’t see that person’s tweets in your feed or replies any longer. It’s a great way to quietly unfollow someone without actually unfollowing.

Step #3: Delete/deactivate your Twitter account.

OH THE DRAMA! But yes, you may need to go this far to regain how much of an impact your use of Twitter has on the amount of negativity you have in your life. Plus, you can always re-activate if you go that route.

How to remove negativity from Facebook

Step #1: On Facebook, click that “Hide From News Feed” or “Unfollow”

On Facebook you shouldn’t bat an eye when it comes to using the “Hide From News Feed” or “Unfollow” options when people post negative stuff. We all complain now and again, but if every status someone posts is bashing the current President, something about religion, how much their job sucks, or a bunch of other stuff that doesn’t bring anyone value, they need to be removed from your FB News Feed.

Step #2: Be picky with who you let in your online social circles

For the longest time I allowed anyone in my social networks. Now, I’m picky. You don’t have to be a Nobel Prize Winner to earn my follow, but I look at this like a real friendship (just on the internet instead of in person). You should do the same thing, because people’s commentary and updates can have a huge affect on you.

Step #3: Delete/deactivate your Facebook account

Yep, may sound a little drastic, but just like Twitter, you can remove a whole slew of negativity if you don’t spend ANY time on Facebook (that’s what I did in 2016).

Other social media platforms: Hopefully it goes without saying that you can follow similar steps with Twitter and Facebook on Instagram, SnapChat, etc.

Take control of how you use social networks, don’t let them and the people on them control you.


Stop doing things you don’t want to be doing

This one may sound simple, but we’ve all been there. A friend is having a party, or so-and-so is going to this event, etc. When I don’t want to do something, but force myself to go, rarely does it end up being fun or bring me any value. That may sound selfish, but you know what, this is my one life to live and I’m tired of doing things to make everyone else happy.

I ruffled a few feathers with my Friends article. But that’s okay. Most of the people that outwardly were offended are not people I want to surround myself with. That was the point. If anything, that article unearthed a couple people for me that I was ignoring the negativity of because I thought I had to. You don’t have to. You really don’t. Life will go on.

Saying “No” to more projects and opportunities can remove negativity from your life.

Man, money sucks sometimes. Especially when people offer it to you to do things that aren’t a lot of work. But what I’ve found over the years is that getting paid to do things you really don’t want to do eats away at you. I’ve done numerous consulting gigs, video projects, random meetings/calls, and promotions that paid well but that I didn’t enjoy. This may not seem like “negativity” in the sense of the previous two examples, but it really is.

Doing work I didn’t want to be doing was a negative influence on my life goal to be doing work I love.

I want to be clear though, I still explore a lot of opportunities. I still answer every opportunity email. I still greatly appreciate that people want to work with me. Everyone should be pickier in life and truly enjoy what they are doing.

Checking email right when you wake up is not healthy, those emails can wait 30-60 minutes.

We all have our phones next to our beds, and most likely we grab for them before fully opening our eyes in the morning. As hard as we try, it seems like negativity will always come through our email inboxes. Someone complaining about a current project. A completely unexpected bill. A random email from out of no where. Whatever it is, it shouldn’t be the first thing you read when you wake up. That sets the tone for your day, and can completely ruin your mood.

Instead, I like to look at my Instagram feed in the morning. That feed is a curated list of people that share photos of things I 99% of the time like. I don’t open any other apps on my phone and wait to check my email until I’ve sat down at my desk and am fully prepared to take on the day. I recently wrote about my morning rituals.

Wouldn’t you rather start your day after looking at beautiful photos of puppies and landscapes, instead of reading emails that create a ripple effect of negativity for the rest of your day?

Take care of bills at ONE time during the week.

Let’s be honest, bills are little satanic pieces of paper that pile up on our desks. Instead of letting them chip away at me all week long, I make an effort to pile them up, and only look at them at one time or one day of the week (or month).

Mark time on your calendar one day a week, and take care of the negativity of bills all at once.

The last way to remove negativity in your life? Start doing more stuff that makes you feel positive.

Another thing that sounds so simple, but is something we don’t do enough for ourselves.

One of my goals with my wife Caroline is what we call “Free Your Mind Fridays.” Since we work from home, we find ourselves sitting at our computers all day long. We’ve decided that Fridays are going to be spent (as much as possible) offline and working on projects around the house, building physical things (art/furniture/etc), or getting out and exploring different things and places. By doing this, we’ve turned Fridays from a day that could have negativity, into a day we purposefully only have positivity.

I’m fully aware that you may not have the ability to step away on Fridays, but that doesn’t mean you can’t enforce something like this on your weeknights, or weekends. Just be more diligent in planning to do stuff you really want to be doing that brings you joy.

We all need more positivity in our lives, and that doesn’t happen just by hoping it will happen. It happens by putting in effort and making tough decisions.

If something is eating away at you and making you feel sick to your stomach, it’s probably something you need to remove from your life immediately. As I’m typing this I’m thinking about something that I’ve been putting off for months and I need to just make a decision on and move on with. Things that linger in our minds will only fester and get worse. They aren’t going to take care of themselves and suddenly turn positive.

I hope you’ll work to remove some of the negativity from your life, it’s been really beneficial for me. It’s not an overnight change, but chipping away day-by-day really starts to add up.

Remove Negativity From Your Life With These Simple Steps

(Big Fat Takeaway)

Taking control of how we use social media, what we do first thing every morning, what opportunities we say yes to, we can remove negativity in our lives.

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Jason Zook

Co-head-hancho of this Wandering Aimfully thing. I used to wear t-shirts for a living, now I just wear them because I'm not a nudist. You can usually find me baking vegan biscuits, watching Jean-Claude Van Damme movies, or reading Calvin & Hobbes comics. Also, I miss my GeoCities website that was dedicated to Dragon Ball Z.

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